Ecstatic Dance: The Practice I Give Almost Every Woman I Work With in Perimenopause

If you have ever worked with me 1:1, there is a very good chance I have given you this as homework. Play 1 to 3 songs at home, in private, and just move. Not dance. Just move. Stay present to whatever you feel in your body as you do it.

Most women look at me a little sceptically the first time I suggest this. Especially women in perimenopause who are already exhausted, already feeling disconnected from their bodies, and really not sure they want to add anything else to their life right now.

And then they try it. And something shifts.

Ecstatic Dance has been one of my own most consistent go-to practices for over five years now. It helped me get through 6 years of divorce stress. It helped me reconnect with my own sensuality and sexuality at a time when I had completely lost touch with both. It is still something I come back to regularly — not as a discipline or a routine, but because it genuinely makes me feel better.

In this blog I want to explain what Ecstatic Dance actually is, why it is so powerful for women in perimenopause specifically, and how you can start exploring it today — without any experience, without leaving your house, and completely free.

First — What Ecstatic Dance Is NOT

Let me start here because I think it is important. Ecstatic Dance is not a dance class. There is no choreography. No steps to learn. No way to do it wrong. You do not need to know how to dance. You do not need to feel comfortable in your body — in fact, if you feel completely uncomfortable in your body right now, that is exactly why this practice might be helpful.

Nobody is watching you. Nobody is judging you. There is no performance. There is not even really a right or wrong way to move.

“Notice that I consciously did not say dance. Ecstatic Dance is like a meditation in motion — it is not about the dance. It is about free movement, which often looks like a dance.” — Dr Kamila

So What Actually Is Ecstatic Dance?

Ecstatic Dance is a conscious movement practice. It is a space where you are guided — through music and sometimes a short opening meditation — to fe